The following is a true story that I just happened to have been a witness to. Recently I saw first hand a father teaching his son how to be a bully. Of course I am sure this was not his intent. But most of us have heard the old saying about, “The road to hell was paved with good intentions.”
A few days ago I had pulled into a Chevron gas station and was standing beside my truck letting the pump run when a car pulled into the stall next to me. At first there was nothing unusual about the situation so I turned back around to face the pump with my back to the car. I heard the driver get out and walk around to the rear of the car to pump the gas. All of a sudden I heard him scream at the top of his lungs in a very menacing tone. “Get back in the car”. He was not merely talking loudly or even just shouting. He was screaming so loud that people completely across the street heard him and turned to look. He screamed “Get back in the car” several times before I was able to see who it was that he was screaming at.
This was not a man that most people would be willing to confront. He was about 6’2″, in his late twenty’s and over two hundred pounds. He seemed to have no hesitation in becoming violent.
As I was saying. At first I could not see who he was screaming at. But about the third time he screamed, “I said get back in the G. D. ca r” I saw who it was that he was screaming at. It appeared to be his son who appeared to be about ten years old. The young boy was walking away from the car. It appeared that he was trying to get away from this man. When the man stopped pumping gas and started around the car toward the boy, the boy stopped and turned around. At this point he started back toward the car. As the man approached the boy he raised his right hand indicating that he was going to hit the boy. I do not know if he ever did because by this time they were on the other side of the car and out of my line of sight. What happened next was even more shocking. I clearly heard the boy say “F. U.” rather loudly to this man. I do not know if this was his father or not. The boy got back into the car. After the man slammed the car door he walked back around to the rear of the car and finished pumping the gas before he got back into the car and left in one hell of a hurry.
I was so surprised that I failed to get the license plate number on the car so I could turn it into the police. I was left completely speechless for just long enough for the car to get out of sight.
I can only imagine the abuse that the boy and his mother probably have to endure at home behind closed doors. But even worse is what that young boy is learning about how to deal with people who disagree with him or do not do what he tells them to do. That is downright frightening. Particularly when he gets older and is physically larger.
The above incident reminds me of the video that was posted on Facebook a couple of days ago of the mother of the 14 year old girl in Florida who has been arrested for bullying another twelve year old girl who eventually committed suicide last year.
In case you have not seen it yet, the mother of the 14 year old female bully was video taped while beating, punching, kicking and cussing a nine year old boy. Like the sheriff said, “The apple does not fall far from the tree.” I couldn’t agree more. That little boy that I saw is headed in exactly the same direction.
I hope the above examples are enough to make you realize just how dangerous it can be to bully your own child. This is in addition to the fact that you never know who might be watching.